I’ve heard people say we shouldn’t give money to Japan, because they said something a while back about U.S. workers being lazy. Big freaking deal. “Somebody from your country called me a bad name, so I’m going to let you die?” I don’t think so.

I’ve heard people say that it’s stupid to give money to the Third Largest Economy In The World. Well, I might be naive, but I don’t think anyone is trying to prop up the Japanese economy. I doubt much of the money being given will show up in the coffers of some multinational corporation. I’m pretty sure most people are trying to get food and water to a bunch of hungry, cold, thirsty, scared people.

And there’s the arguments about giving to the Red Cross, and how we shouldn’t support that relief effort because of mismanagement, and we shouldn’t do this or that or the other thing. Yes, we need to have that conversation, and several others. But not this minute.

I’m not going to walk into a group of people who only want to help, who would fly over there and start clearing rubble with their bare hands if they could, that they’re being stupid and wrong. Could we please reserve that conversation for some other day?

For most people, right now, money is a metaphor for a shoulder to lean on. Right now, today, this week, it’s a way of saying “I love you.” Human to human, hand to hand.

And there’s just no good reason for telling people they’re stupid when what they’re really doing is offering up a prayer.